Crafting stories is fun, sharing them is even better. And deciding to ‘live happy’ is the best thing ever.

1989!! 

1989!! 

I was born and raised in Malaysia, but I’ve now lived more years in England than my birth country. I got married in England, and had my children in England. And now I find myself a single woman again, but this time with 2 beautiful sons.

After spending 15 of 26 years of married life making hopeful, wishful excuses, I divorced my alcoholic husband. That was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But, to my surprise, in those difficult 2 years of the divorce process, I found the courage to respect myself and redeem my low self-esteem; I found the strength to live life on my terms. I admit some days are harder than others, but I’ve had enough of simply existing; I want to live happy.

I also discovered the strength of my faith. Brought up a Hindu, my belief now mainly encompasses elements of Hinduism, spirituality and the divine feminine. I am continuously grateful to God and the angels for all the blessings in my life; for all the experiences I’ve gone through, which have made me the woman I am today.

To understand the man, you must first walk a mile in his moccasins’ ~ Native American proverb

I now want to share my story because I’ve realised that going through a painful experience like divorce doesn’t mean we have to get sucked into a dark hole of hate and loathing (even self-loathing), with endless rounds of playing the blame-game. It is possible to choose another way, a better way. It is possible to come out of it, happy and still full of love.

I know I’ll never regret marrying him for our marriage gave us our lovely children, Gordon and Liam. They’ve, literally, been a godsend, blessing me with their love and support.

Taken in 2000. Gordon (red shirt) 5 years, and Liam, 3 years

Taken in 2000. Gordon (red shirt) 5 years, and Liam, 3 years

As for my love of stories, I owe that to my dad; he loved reading. I was in my 20s before I started to write seriously and not just for fun. Though my writing suffered during the divorce, it slowly helped me focus and provided an outlet for my inner turmoil.

Having always read to the boys, I’m happy that they share my love of stories. Both make up their own; Gordon writes fanfiction, and as for some of Liam’s ideas, I wish I’d thought of them! And he ‘stores’ it all in his memory; he doesn’t write any of it down yet has no trouble remembering all the details. I can’t even manage the weekly grocery shop without a list! Jealous? Me??

At Hyper Japan, July 2016

At Hyper Japan, July 2016

Like most children, my first taste of stories came from the smorgasbord of European fairy tales. And I was lucky enough to have the added flavour of Hindu mythological tales. This led to a steady diet of fantasy. From all that foodie reference, you might think that I enjoy eating – and you would be right!

I enjoy reading different genres, but my favourite remains fantasy, with historical fiction a close second – I love history!! The stories I write are heavily influenced by fantasy/fairy tale elements, and Hindu mythology.

After spending years trying to find representation and getting nowhere fast, I decided to self-publish, having spent hours and hours researching – my favourite pastime! To date, I’ve published 2 stories, and I’m working on, what I hope will be a series of fairy tale retellings. My first, ‘The Cursed Gift’, is available as a free ebook on Amazon, Nook, Kobo and iTunes. The second story, ‘Moon Goddess’, has been published in ebook and paperback format.